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What is marriage counselling?

  • Marriage counseling or couples therapy is a form of psychotherapy that helps people deal with various relationship problems.
  • Although married couples are the prime candidates for marriage counseling, unmarried couples in long-term relationships and those planning to get married can find therapy sessions helpful as well.
  • Marriage counseling helps couples to identify and address the concerns which are making their relationship unsatisfactory. Marital conflicts that are causing tension and escalating to hurtful arguments can be brought out for discussion through marriage counseling sessions.
  • The most important aspect of marriage counselling is that it helps to create a safe and neutral space for you and your partner or spouse to explore your relationship.
  • A marriage counselor is a third party who is objective and not prejudiced or biased and can bring clarity and help you and your partner in communicating effectively.
  • Marriage counselling is an opportunity for couples to take time out of their busy lives and come together to really focus on themselves.

What to expect from a marriage counsellor:

  • The role of a marriage counselor is to provide a safe and neutral place for couples to talk openly about what is affecting the marriage.
  • The marriage counsellor acts as a mediator between you and your partner and facilitates healthy and effective communication. This is particularly helpful where couples are set on improving their relationships but are not sure how to go about doing so.
  • The therapist can help to analyze the behavioral patterns of the spouses and identify those which lead to conflict. Once such patterns have been identified, the couple can, with the help of the counselor, work on modifying them.
  • The role of the therapist is strictly to walk you through the struggles of your relationship by teaching you how to handle your differences, achieve effective communication, and cope with your relationship issues together.

How can marriage counselling help you?

  • Effective communication is one of the most important aspects of any marriage, however it is not uncommon for couples to encounter hurdles which affect their ability to share their feelings and needs with one another.
  • Marriage counselling can provide the couple with the appropriate tools to start improving their communication. In cases where the couple has been reluctant or too busy to face the underlying issues that are causing problems in their marriage, counselling can serve as a safe space for where these issues can finally be confronted.
  • Marriage counselling can also be helpful in strengthening the relationship. It helps to create a more realistic picture of who each partner really is, as opposed to who the other partner wants him or her to be. This can go a long way in settling misunderstandings and avoiding miscommunications. It is certainly a lot easier to find common ground if the spouses are aware of and respect each other’s desires and motivations.
  • It also offers couples a way to stay accountable to each other. You don't need to have a difficult relationship in order to seek therapy. Marriage counselling can also help couples who want to strengthen their bonds and gain a better understanding of each other.

5 common problems for which couples counselling is needed:

Couples may try counseling for any issue they feel they can’t resolve on their own, however there are some common reasons why they might seek help:

  • Couples growing apart over time
  • Infidelity in the relationship leading to a breach in trust
  • Ineffective communication between partners leading to frequent disagreements, or lack of communication
  • Coping with major life transitions such as divorce, children moving out, death in the family, etc.
  • Lack of love or intimacy in the relationship, both physical and emotional

Why do I need a trained Marriage counselor , when I have my friends and family support ?

Many individuals reach out to friends or family when they see cracks in their relationship. Friends or relative give advice based on their personal experience and on the relationship they share with you and your partner. Most of the time only one person’s version of the situation is heard, So personal bias influence the advice and the understanding of the situation.

  • What you really need is a professional who will work together with both of you and help you to find solutions to the issues in your relationship

WHAT IS THE WAY TO IMPROVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP?

Keep the communication lines open- the first step is to discuss the issues with your partner

  • If very often, you find communication barriers while discussing with your partner move to :

Step 2 - Get in touch with me , I have more than 20 years of experience as a Marriage counselor and I am here to help you !

You will get :

  • A non judgmental environment
  • Confidentiality
  • Acceptance
  • An expert who understands and respects different viewpoints
  • A qualified person who can facilitate the communication process
  • A counselor who will help you recreate intimacy and a sense of connection
  • And most importantly you will be heard and understood by your partner

In my experience as a marriage counselor, when you receive the proper support and inputs, the chances of your relationship becoming better will hugely increase

Mariella Zanoletti,
Marriage Counsellor, Delhi & Gurgaon
MSc Psychotherapy King's College, London
M: +91 9899186443
www.onlineexpatcounselling.com
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1. What is the importance of marriage counselling?

Marriage counselling is very important for addressing marital grievances because:

2. Is marriage counselling effective?

The answer is “Yes”. It is effective. According to the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT), marriage therapy can be more effective than individual treatments for marital distress and conflict.

Marriage counselling is a very effective process for the couple to go through.

It's a process of growing together. It works on a number of different levels to help you and your partner create a happier relationship in phases. The first phase is similar to gardening. On the first level, marriage counselling works because both the partners have made the choice together to seek help in making things better. The fact that both say “we need to do some things differently” puts both of the partners in a receptive and more willing state of mind to make changes. Making the decision to enter marriage counselling is like preparing the soil for the seeds of change to be planted.

3. How long do couples usually go to therapy?

Timing is an essential determinant in the marriage counselling process. Unfortunately, most couples wait much too long to reach out for help.

According to relationship and marriage experts couples wait an average of six years of being unhappy before getting help.

Couples have got years to build up the tangent before they begin the important work of learning to resolve differences in effective ways. Weekly sessions produced the greatest improvements in functioning and long-lasting benefits.

4. What are the reasons for which one may need marriage counselling?

a) Everything is an Argument

Anger along with negative speech and emotions are both common reasons why couples attend counselling.

It isn’t uncommon for healthy couples to argue every once in a while, but some couples reach a level that they argue every day, often over the tiniest things. This can often leave the partners feeling withdrawn, uncomfortable, insecure, depressed, and disregarded.

b) There is a Specific Problem

Another common reason why couples seek therapy is to address a specific problem in their relationship. An example of this would be an addiction to drugs or alcohol.

Addiction is a terrible thing for a family to have in their lives. It can cause relationship turmoil, emotional breakdown in children, ruins marriages, and destroys finances. An addiction can turn the partner you once loved into a complete stranger.

Therapy can be an essential tool for conquering addiction issues.

c) There are Sexual Issues

Sex is a huge part of a healthy relationship. It can either bond couples together, boost trust and relieve stress, or it can create panic, anxiety and make the bedroom a battlefield.

When there are sexual problems in a marriage, it opens up a world of troubles including:

Going to a marriage therapist can help couples understand what are the core reasons they are drawing away from each other and to reconnect on a sexual level.

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